Life is like a bowl full of cherries....

Or, is life like a box of chocolates? One is sweet, the other is sour. One can go rotten, the other stale. Both however, can taste good. How you look at your wedding planning is all about perspective - all about how you see things, what you like best, and what is going to help you achieve happiness (before & after the wedding ceremony).

What's good for one, may be bad for another. What is one's dream, may be anothers nightmare - but at the end of the day (this day being your wedding rehearsal, the eve of your nuptials) you have to know that you did the best you could with planning a great party, and preparing yourself for what comes after the wedding - marriage.

There are going to be issues during your wedding planning - difference in opinions - and I can guarantee it, there will be spats (between you & your Groom, between you & his family /your family and between you & your friends).


Firstly, everyone should understand and respect that this is YOUR wedding - and by 'your', I mean you and your fiance. This is a special time for you, and all others should simply take joy in the happiest time of your life. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. You may have certain people that will try to add extra stresses for you - not sure why, jealousy perhaps. In the Wedding Industry, we call these wedding 'energy suckers' - Wedding Trolls. LOL! Have a good laugh if you can, because like mentioned above, it is YOUR day.
TIP: Talk to your fiance about anyone that is troubling you, and work it out together. Either turn a blind eye, or confront the person about how they are making you feel.

I see your 'full house', but I trump it with my 'Bride'. There's a reason why they say "it's for the Bride". Wedding planning is stressful - it's like having another full time job with way more bosses than co-workers. If the Bride asks you do help out, or to do something reasonable - then please, for everyone's sake - just do it.
Don't make issues out of small requests. Everyone should keep this in mind at all times - it's the Bride & Groom's day - your day will come, or it has already passed - it's not all about you, it's about them.
TIP: Be tactful with your requests. Big or small, those that love you and want to see you happy will help out. All others can, you know.....

You and your Groom 'chose' to be with each other. Again, people are going to have their say/opinon - about you, about your ideas, and about your wedding. No matter what is said, the two of you need to stick together - this is very important. Family is family, you don't pick them - but you picked who you want to spend the rest of your life with - make that choice count.
TIP: If he doesn't have your back, and tells you that he feels like he's "in the middle" of any issues that arise - that might be a sign that he doesn't view the two of you as a unit.
Working together should be easy and fun - not a battle.

May you remember that you can't please everyone, so aim to please just you and your Groom.
Weddings are all about 2 people joining together - and not about what family traditions have to be included, where relatives should be seated & when to have the first dance. A wedding should only be about you and your fiance - your wants, needs, desires and dreams.
TIP: Again, be tactful and compromise the best you can. Try to put yourself in the shoes of others simply for a 'reality check' as planning your wedding can become all encompassing, but don't settle for a wedding that isn't what you always envisioned.

Don't sweat the small stuff. You can plan until you're blue in the face, but things will still go wrong on your wedding day. Of course having a Wedding Planner on site helps with this, but if you don't have a Planner, try to focus on the reason you are gathered - for a marriage, not just a party. There's no wedding without the vows.
TIP: Keep a clear perspective. Keep it simple. You, him, marriage, life.

Try to keep your perspective about your wedding planning as 'sweet' as possible. Be respectful, but don't be taken for granted. Be heard, but not overbearing. Be you - and if that's an issue for anyone, then they don't deserve to be a part of your special day.

Overall, try not to get too stressed out - and if you do, that may be telling you more than you think. Take a step back and look beyond the wedding, beyond the 'one day of celebration' and make sure that you're having a party for all the right reasons, because in the end - it is just one day.

Good luck!